Brief Take: The caliber of a child’s upbringing determines the harmony of a society

I couldn’t help but wonder how things got out of control after reading the widely shared post about the young girl in the Philippines who threatened to leave her family if her parents didn’t purchase her an iPhone.

Though I felt terrible for the parents who couldn’t afford the phone their youngster insisted on, it got me to thinking about how a person’s surroundings can influence their conduct. It’s possible that the child picked up insecurity from those around her, but isn’t it the responsibility of parents to teach their children the worth of money? It’s possible that her parents are not around to instruct her. Were there no people around them who know better that can teach them, and to learn from? Where did she learn how to act like that?

As I became older, I understood that providing kids with a fair amount of indulgence and discipline is a useful teaching tool. When a child performs well, their efforts should be acknowledged. A child’s brain is primed to release dopamine, which motivates them to engage in more rewarding activities. Conversely, children who exhibit inappropriate behavior ought to be informed of the repercussions. And then they will have to deal with the fallout from their decisions if they carry out their mischievous plans. They would have learned the difference between a poor decision and a good decision if they had been given the option and had chosen to proceed regardless. Children are neither too young to understand things, nor do I think they lack knowledge.

The thing is, if a kid learned that they can get away with throwing tantrums early on, this will manifest far more in the future in their relationships and in their behavior. Parents should not give in to their children’s wants. They should be the one reinforcing boundaries according to their capabilities. When this kind of behavior is enabled by parents, they become spoiled kids that turn out to be lazy and entitled adults who think the world will instantly reward them after they do some basic shit the rest of the people. Parents have the crucial role in teaching their children to be humble. They should support or tell their children off, accordingly. Through this, they can learn to trust their children are molded with their proper training.

Parents are responsible in molding their child’s character from home. They are the first person who teach us what is right from wrong. There was a line in Sky Castle that says that says, “The job of a parent is considered successful when their kids are successful.” Meaning, the success of a child is representation of his/her good background which is their family. But in reality, a parent who can let their children go out to the world on their own, become well-functioning adults, and harmless individuals to the society, is a person who has given the world a huge favor. Kudos to those parents! The job of a parent is successful when their children adapts properly to the world as adults.

Not all kids turn out the same as the environment they grew up with, of course. As they become aware of their environment, it is up to them to continue the cycle, or break them. But the people who do not become aware are the indicators of the environment they grew up in.

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